I was talking to my friend about a friend of ours who has been easily manipulated by some women in his life. Why was this so? Because he is too soft. Marshmallow man. Air. Nothing to ground him. Soft. That isn’t what women want. How will that show that he is a good father figure? How will that show that he is not a pushover?
Being a hopeless romantic does not mean one should be blind. Instead one should ask for wisdom, as the world we are in is not like how it was for our parents. People are much more selfish and will deceive, kill and destroy just to get what they want. As there are many good people the bad ones are ten times more.
With wisdom, one will be able to know what they should tolerate and what they should not. Recognise signs where our partner may be manipulating us because their intentions are not pure. And all of this I have seen through the life of my male friend. It is a real shame because it is like; his inability to understand his emotions has caused him to be like this. As if there is some long delay until things click. Being in a toxic relationship for 3 years but deep inside they are still cheating but also want to make their relationship work.
My point is, emotional intelligence is very important and not being afraid to let go when we feel as if we are being used, feel worthless because the appreciation we are after will never come.
So let us remember to include wisdom and God in our relationships and when we are trying to find MR and MRS right. Because we could be the will slowly tear that relationship apart because we allow ignorance and blindness to lead us instead of God who is love.